Do what’s BEST for you according to YOU. NOT according to other peoples definition of best. If something is important to you, do what needs to be done about it regardless of what people think or say you should do. At the end of the day, HOW YOU feel actually matters.
The human brain was programmed into wanting more than it already has. This is why we look at certain people and it seems that they already have enough but are still thirsting for more. We where made to strive for a “perfect life” and because perfection doesn’t exist, we always go after more until we get to that level of stability. But still end up unsatisfied !
This is why we are reminded to focus on our blessings most of the time. We also need to CHANGE that image. Reality puts limit to imagination and this is where the subject of positive thinking and critical thinking comes in. Just because our imagination is positive doesn’t make it possible. Critically thinking and analyzing the images we have stored into our imagination is a good way of turning dreams into reality.
If you can dream it you can live it. Nah… you will only live it by not dreaming it.
You’ll get later…
Whatever comes in your mind right now is what you SHOULD be doing EVERYDAY. If you haven’t started living, START NOW! Whatever it is that’s not going right in your life right now, DONT focus too much on it!
Live EVERY moment of your life like it’s your last one, because unfortunately someday it will actually be!
For everything has an expiring date. EVEN life.
Thank God when toxic people leave your life. It’s like trash took itself out!
You deserve better. I hope you know this!
I’ve learned from life to NOT LET anything or anyone have power over me. I’ve learned to ACCEPT and LOVE myself just the way I am regardless of who loves me or not. I’ve learned to be my own support; to always be there for me. I’ve learned to not change who I am to fit in to someone’s definition of greatness.
I’ve learned that we can’t please the whole world; That no matter how good you are or how much good you do there’s people who will only look at the things you do wrong and that’s okay!
I’ve learned to build strong confidence in myself because confidence has POWER: It’s sexier than makeup!
I’ve learned to not take things personally and to not expect everyone to see life from my point of view! That It’s okay to THINK , BE and FEEL different! I’ve learned to no longer let people’s opinions define my person!
And because I’ve learned, I’m now free…
Give time the time it needs to make the time right for things that can only get better with time. Let time take care of them. Sometimes there’s NOTHING you can actually do but just give it time. So Give time enough time to let life surprise you 🙂
Stare at a clock when you’re in a hurry you’ll notice time will go slower than a turtle on a track field. But get your attention off the clock, you’ll see time surprise you.
Some things in life will only come once you stop waiting on them to come. Expect them without waiting on them. This is a something LIFE has taught me this year. Everytime I wait on something to happen, it only does when I don’t see it coming. So weird…
I feel so bad for the people who left your life, imagine losing you 😳
Their loss !!
FOR THE BROKEN…
You know how they say that “If you want that wound to heal better stop touching it?”
I was deeply thinking about this quote and I got inspired to write this:
The wounds that need healing, have to be acknowledged in order to heal. It’s like breaking a bone but refusing to go to the hospital just because of your fears of shame. If you’re broken ADMIT that you’re broken. That’s the first step towards healing. You’ll never heal by ignoring what you feel. Feeling pain shows that you’re human. You’re supposed to feel…
So Reach out…there’s NO SHAME in feeling!!!
Always appreciate what you have no matter how little or insignificant you think it is. Appreciate everything you have before it becomes everything you had.
Good looks dont make anyone unique!
There’s far way too many good looking people in the world. This is why using your looks as an excuse to get away with things in life is pretty LAME. You’re attractive ? Sooo? What else have you got to offer? Being good looking is not a talent!
Here’s one sign of maturity:
NOT easily impressed by good LOOKS!
You know what I’m saying?
YOUR story doesn’t have to be like THEIRS. Everyone’s journey is DIFFERENT!
The less you gossip, compare your life to other peoples and the more FOCUSED you are on your OWN LIFE, the BETTER!!!
LOVE yourself! Stop being SO unsecured. Don’t compare yourself to other people. You’re not them! You where born in the body you’re born to for a reason and there’s nothing you can do about it just like there’s NOTHING wrong with you. It’s okay TO BE different. It’s okay to FEEL different! Diversity is what makes the BEAUTY of our planet!
If God has put a dream in your heart.
Write it down and keep it as a treasure.
No matter what people say, PROTECT the vision with passion.
When you know deep within your heart.
That THIS dream doesn’t come from you.
EVEN when all you see is the opposite
On His time, On Gods time, HE WILL DO!
3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.
Be the light everywhere you go! Let your light shine and make a difference in peoples lives. Theres people who no longer believe that this world still has good people. YOU can prove them wrong! Bring light into someone’s life. BE THERE for them, make them feel SPECIAL. SPEAK life into their lives. ENCOURAGE them, BELIEVE in them, don’t let them give up on themselves. The words you speak will IMPACT their lives. Be GREAT, be GOOD, be KIND, be LIGHT.
YOU can make a difference into their world…
Do you want everyone to love you? For nobody to criticize or judge you? For people to always agree with you ? The only way to get that is to DIE. That’s the only time they’ll all love you.
This is why I believe that, we ought to be ourselves not a definition of what people want us to be.
Its honestly better to be disliked and rejected for being yourself than it is to be accepted for being someone you’re not.
Someone doesn’t like you? WHATEVER… you can’t force everyone to have good taste 😆!
Stop torturing yourself in trying to please the entire world. You’ll end up pleasing nobody!
Just because it shines doesn’t mean it’s gold!
Appearances are deceitful!
Let us not forget to humble ourselves!
Think about it this way: Death equalizes
all of us regardless of who we are and what we have in this life, when death will knock it will all bring us to the SAME LEVEL!
Let death be your REMINDER every time you start to feel better than anyone for something you have that they dont or every time you feel lower than anyone for something they have that you don’t REMIND yourself that it’s all VANITY. Cause IT IS !
We won’t bring anything with us when we die, so we may as well just BE KIND and treat each others with the same kind of respect, love and affection we all deserve!
Because EVERYTHING is vanity…
Appreciate who you HAVE before they become who you HAD
Focus on what’s left, not what’s gone! Focus on your blessings 🙂
YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE
Well I don’t really have a choice!
YES YOU DO!
-I didn’t really see this coming!
Yes you may not be responsible for the things that happen to you BUT you’re responsible for the choices you make after they happen. It’s YOUR responsibility to make the RIGHT choices for YOURSELF!
Cause if you’re stuck somewhere in life, you’re stuck there by CHOICE! Because we ALWAYS have a choice!
You are the most powerful person in your life. Don’t let anything have power over you. Cry when you need to, do what needs to be done but don’t let things control your life. Sometimes all we got to do is just live life without questioning and stressing… cause YOLO anyways !
CONGRATULATIONS, YOU WON!
Nothing would make them happier than knowing that your life fell apart over what they did to you.
The best revenge is success. If you didn’t let your past take a hold of your present, you’re more successful than you think!
Path yourself in the back. Congrats, you WON 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Keep it up. You’re on the right path!
Everything that happens truly does happen for a reason!
And although we may not always know the reason, Let’s just remember that there’s no coincidence in life. Nothing just happens!
If your circle isn’t decreasing in size but increasing in value, you’re not growing up!
It’s okay to not be popular. It’s okay to not have a lot of friends. It’s okay to be different. It’s really is ok!
DONT BECOME THEM…
You did what you thought was right for them. You where kind enough to pour out your heart into their lives. You made sacrifices and gave all you could to brighten their lives but in return they paid you back with ungratefulness, betrayal, Lies… you know you didn’t deserve that.
And now you feel angry deep inside. You feel like maybe you shouldn’t have done what you did for them. And you’ve tried giving different people chances but you’re afraid…
You’re angry and you wish you could go back in time to just undo all the things you did and un live all the moments you spent together. You have wounds in your heart that you have no idea of how to heal. The inner damages is holding your life back and people assume it’s not that bad just because they see you smile. If only they knew!!!
If people around you are not projecting back the same efforts you’re making. Then maybe it’s time you let them go?
It’s better to be alone than to be around people who make you feel like you’re hard to love.
IF THIS IS YOU THEN THIS IS FOR YOU
Do you feel lost in life?
You don’t seem to know where you’re heading nor what you’re doing…
You’re just living with the hopes that things will get better/ happen…
You want to keep believing that everything will be okay but everything seems to be falling apart even more everyday!
Most people think they understand, few actually do!!
You’re surviving each day with exhaustion and also losing faith and hopes in yourself and everything…
You’ve tried and you’re still trying to be strong but LIFE keeps happening…It’s getting more brutal everyday. Sometimes you just wanna give up…
You just not happy anymore. You feel unsecured, different, you cry yourself to bed all the time. You’re miserable and you hate to admit it but you really are.
Is this you?
If this is you then this is for you:
Be strong and know that everything you’re going through today is only a preparation of what you’re meant to face and who you’re meant to be tomorrow!
If you feel lost, find your way back, have faith and remember that this season WILL PASS if you DON’T give up on yourself!
HAVE YOU FORGIVEN YOURSELF?
Have you forgiven yourself for the things you did in your past?
Have you forgiven yourself for doing all the things you shouldn’t have done and for saying all the things you shouldn’t have said?
Have you forgiven yourself ? Or you still being hard on yourself? Are you still living with regrets?
Because If you don’t do something about the way you feel about yourself and your past, that’s exactly where you’re gonna be in the future: Where you currently are; In your past!
It’s time to let go and move on with life. I understand it’s hard but its THE ONLY WAY OUT!
Stuff happen and stuff will always happen. It isn’t the end of the world, It’s simply a part of this journey called LIFE!!!
WORK FOR IT, GO FOR IT !!!
What if Bill Gate gave up?
What if Walt Disney gave up?
What if Marc Zuckerberg gave up?
What if Steve Jobs gave up?
WHAT IF BARRACK OBAMA gave up?
Where would they be?
Google, Disney and Apple started in a garage! Did you hear that? A GARAGE!!!
Who would have ever imagined they’d make it so big?
Would they make it so big if they gave up?
Dreams DO come true! But we need endurance. Strong mindsets!!!
So work hard and never give up!!!
READJUST YOUR FOCUS
But how? How can you hold yourself from not focusing on these demons that constantly disturbs your peace everyday?
Well truth is that you can’t really control the actuality of certain situations but what you can do instead is REDIRECT your thoughts towards other things to readjust your focus.
If you can’t help yourself from thinking about the things that are bothering you in your life right now maybe it’s time to distract your mind with better pictures cause remember that at the end of the day the problem is not the problem, the problem is how intensive your thoughts are about your problem!!!!
Ignore your demons to a level that’s gonna make them start doubting their own existence!!
Sometimes all you got to say is YOLO!!! If there’s absolutely NOTHING you can do to change something then stressing over it is a total waste of time cause worrying won’t change the fact that it ALREADY HAPPENED and IS WHAT IT IS !!!!!
Give it no attention and it will have no power over you!!!
Don’t stop dreaming the dreams that you’re dreaming just because many other people are dreaming the same dreams.
Do not give up on life, on your dreams. Do not give up on the things that mean the world to you. There’s always light at the end of the tunnel. If something is meant to happen, it will happen but only if you don’t give up!
ITS NOT YOU, ITS THEM!!
The way people treat you is a reflection of who they are as people. Not of who you are as a person. Stop blaming yourself for the things that you can’t control. For things you couldn’t have changed no matter what you did and for things that couldn’t have happened otherwise!
You can’t change who someone is just like they can’t change who you are. And always remember that whoever wants to be a part of your life will work for it and not make excuses to go. People will hurt you and act like you’ve hurt them simply because they don’t wanna stay. You’re not the problem , it’s just who they are.
I know it’s hard, I know it’s not easy but you need to let them go! Your destiny isn’t tied to anyone that disturbs your peace!
Just think about the way they’ve made you feel and ask yourself if you truly want to be around people who make you feel this way for the rest of your life!
If you did your best and they still didn’t see it, they’re not worth it!
So stop blaming yourself!
Whatever you need to do to stay away from toxic people, DO!
Whether it’s moving to another city, changing neighbourhoods, moving out, cutting them off, Do!
It’s very important because who you surround yourself with impact how you perceive yourself and who you will be in the next five years!
So Do it the HARD WAY!
It gets easier with time but first you need to take the first step !!!
Take courage! Love yourself
You can do it!
It’s better to have what God wants for you. It’s durable, it’s of good quality!
You are under NO obligation to always say yes and always be kind to people who don’t deserve your kindness!
If someone sucks at being nice to you and often disrespects you and your values; you shouldn’t feel obligated to respect and be nice to them. Someone who doesn’t care how you feel about the things they say and do to you CONSCIOUSLY isn’t someone you need to keep tolerating!
You have feelings too and they need to be taken into consideration.
Yes we are taught to turn the other cheek but that doesn’t mean not standing up for yourself when it’s needed. Even Jesus got mad at the people turning the temple into a sales place!
Stand for yourself! Have a personality. Sweetness doesn’t equal weakness. There’s a time to be sweet then there’s a time to get real with people.
There’s a time for everything!
Don’t ever let nobody find comfort in disrespecting you. Cause once it happens, twice it will!
If you don’t know who you are, people will make sure you become who they want you to be.
The only way to know who you are is to find yourself. Did you lose yourself in a trial? In the midst of trying to fit in?
Are you really who you know you’re supposed to be?
The REAL you is the person you are when there’s no other influence around you.
Get to know yourself, be yourself, find yourself, LOVE yourself and ACCEPT yourself!
You are honestly all you got!!!
GIVE YOURSELF THE TIME YOU NEED
You know how in life they say that God always has a witness? (That whatever you’re going through someone in this world has already been through it? That there’s no new demons, they just the same coming back and forth in people’s lives?
I was having this conversation with someone the other day: Just because that it the case (that there’s a witness somewhere) doesn’t mean you have to pressure yourself into coping with a problem in an unhealthy way.
For example: You and a friend both went through the EXACT same trial but it only took a little time for them to completely either heal, move on or just start afresh emotionally or physically or whatever they needed to do to get better. But then it took you or it’s still taking you longer to get there.
Let me tell you something: There’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling what’s supposed to be felt even when trying to no longer feel. There’s wounds that take much longer time to heal depending on every individual. We’re not all made the same inside. There’s no shame in feeling. We’re supposed to feel.
And time doesn’t heal. It’s what happens in time that does.
So to conclude, I don’t know who this is for but I promise, if you can give yourself enough time without feeling pressured or ashamed by anyone to feel, you’ll realize that things will start feeling better.
Do you ever wonder why there’s certain things you’ve given upon THOUSANDS of times but yet you still keep coming back to? Sometimes you don’t understand the attraction BUT sometimes the reason why you can’t give up is because you’re not supposed to give up.